Evil Bunny # 2: The Paranoid

How It Begins
I can't even find anything to give an example of paranoia being a good thing. Maybe someone out there might think that it's sweet that their partner thinks the world of them and is afraid to lose them, but wake up and smell the evil bunny biting off your arm! It's the smell of horrible distrust and misplaced fear of loss. I can't even think of an example to make this sound having anything "sweet" like the first bunny.

 The paranoid doesn't necessarily have to know everything that happens to your day, but he is worried about what you're really doing. She won't ask much questions, but she makes conspiracy theories in her head. Every little thing you do that doesn't seem to add up will have back-up theories of what's really going on. Which, in reality really have no actual basis. Oh wait look, your arm's gone. I told you to wake up.

Evil Bunny Moments
The paranoid bunny has a lot of trust issues, and the internet might be spent just filling up the gaps of what the paranoid bunny might be able to say. This kind of bunny is someone you can practically smell from a mile away. Once you've given them an inch of distrust due to a missed date or something you forgot to do, they will be all over you. It's not uncommon to hear them say: "Is s/he the reason why you weren't replying to me at all for an hour?? I trusted you! How could you do this to me?" and they say it with such dramatic effect and it's just about a comment on your facebook page that was actually from your cousin.

He can look up names of friends you have, or ask about people that used to court you and if you're still friends with them. This bunny will find reasons to ask about details you never thought were vital for anything. And when you do something to trigger their suspicions, things will escalate and you wouldn't even get a chance to explain. They never even breathe to ask and you would be all over apologizing and promising that you weren't cheating and that you had no reason to leave your relationship. And after the whirlwind of emotions and possibly, emotional blackmail, things calm down and you're back in your old roles and love and life is back to normal.

So okay, maybe, a little bit of paranoia is fine, but an extreme fear of loss and not being able to trust anyone is just not healthy for any type of relationship. Imagine the first paragraph for this section repeating and repeating in different situations. You will feel yourself get tired of the drama and keeping up with the reassurances. You will feel tired of the circular reasoning and having to make sure that everything is alright. In the same way you want out of the relationship, but at the same time you feel that you can't leave.

No-nos for the Bun-bun
It's easy to see this bunny coming from a mile away, but once it's near enough, it's actually difficult to leave. It's like having a pet dog who's scared of lightning and thunder. As much as you can say the truth to them, it would feel wrong for you to leave. I've seen it happen a lot of times and for different reasons. No matter how much you hate the situation, no matter how much it bugs you that s/he can't be content and assured enough, leaving them would feel like you're breaking their world.

But you know what? She won't learn to hold herself together if you stay. It's not you who's holding him together; it has to be something he learns on his own. If you stay in the relationship with the thought that it's helping her stand on her own, it's not. Why? You can't be the support of a completely capable person. He will only learn to depend on you and not learn what it's like to stand on his own. Everything else is dead weight. You would only be dragged down. Think about it.

It won't help either of you if you stay. The paranoid bunny will stay a paranoid bunny, unless you feed it properly, or train it so it would learn something new.